Or 5 days with a sick almost-2-year-old toddler…which would you choose? You’d choose the sick toddler? OK, tough gal (or to my 2 sweet guy friends from high school who are men enough to actually admit they read my blog–tough guys), how about 5 days stuck inside with a sick toddler in a tiny apartment four floors up in the air without an elevator? Still think you’d choose the toddler?
After about three days of the feverish little guy’s whining, sniffling, and waking up screaming every hour from midnight until 6 a.m., I was dreaming of a sweet, restful, pampered stretch in a minimum-security prison…a cot all to myself, hot meals served to me, the stretches of outdoor time in the “yard” walking dreamily around in the sun…pure bliss…
Along with the little guy’s cold, I’m admittedly having a little trouble transitioning back to life as a city mom. I have so much help when I’m in PA. My BFF’s beautiful daughter, Kerri, has been my mommy’s helper.
She is wonderful with the little guy and he loves her. Last summer, she watched him for me a few times a week so that I could get a little whiff of freedom–a trip to K-Mart or ShopRite…woo hoo.
I thought I’d be thrilled to be back in NYC after a LONG winter in Pennsylvania. Yes, it snows in NYC, but as long as Mayor Bloomberg isn’t in the Caribbean, plows come along every hour or so and clear it up. Someone else digs out the steps and sidewalks. It’s magical for about 12 hours, and then it’s just dirty for a day or two after that, and then it’s spring.
I’m usually OK at handling boredom. About a decade ago, I got trapped for a week in the Poconos by a snow storm. I took that time to teach my cat to fetch. Seriously. But there is something different about being trapped inside with a sick baby in the city. There’s no way to get a breath of fresh air. Even when he goes down for a nap, I can’t just walk down 4 flights to the stoop. I’ve never been claustrophobic, but the walls were starting to close in on me.
Then I had to get him to the pediatrician 24 blocks away. I didn’t want to take him the whole way in his stroller, so I had a brain wave and thought, “How hard can it be to get him, myself, the stroller, and his diaper bag on the city bus?” Harder than I ever imagined…I looked like such a dorky clod that three different ladies on the bus took pity on me and jumped up to help. He did love the bus, though. So much so that this weekend, D and I are taking him for a round-trip bus ride to nowhere, just for fun. Who says NYC isn’t fun for kids!
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Congrats to Nay, Trey, Merdi, and the latest arrival, Laurel!!
Way back in Archduke Franz-Michael’s first term as NYC mayor, he banned smoking in all bars and restaurants in New York City. I was, and still am, totally outraged even these many years later when smoking has been banned almost everywhere else, too. I think smoking has even been banned in the southern United States, Ireland, England, and most of Europe, right?
I wasn’t even a smoker when the ban went into effect in NYC. I had just quit, so the ban was good for me personally because I could go out for drinks with friends and not be tempted by smokers happily puffing all around me. But I still thought it was over-reaching and wrong.
Smokers are justifiably banned from smoking in most public places (offices, hospitals, churches, airplanes, buses, subways, trains, schools, dorms, prisons, libraries, hotels, restaurants, parks, beaches, a lot of sidewalks, a lot of apartments buildings, theaters, and in cars in which children are riding) so shouldn’t there be one single place where a smoker can light up? And I totally get that workers who are not smokers are exposed to second-hand smoke, and yes, that sucks. But I always thought there could be some sort of compromise worked out—like maybe a bar could choose to be a smoking or non-smoking bar, and then workers could choose where to work.
Anyway, it’s done; the ban will never be lifted. But one of the unintended consequences of the ban has turned out to be a baby boom in bars. Since there’s no smoke, parents take their babies with them.
My friends the Gallagher sisters, Annie and Bernadette, were out in Park Slope, Brooklyn last weekend. Park Slope is close to Manhattan, and the apartments are bigger and just ever-so-slightly more affordable than Manhattan. It’s not quite moving to the suburbs, so a lot of new parents move there. And then they go out and meet their friends who also have babies out at bars. Annie said there were so many babies in the bar that day that she bought 4 beers and the bartender threw in a baby for free.
This has been happening all over NYC for a while now. The first time I walked into a bar and saw baby strollers, I was shocked. I met Bernadette that afternoon, and she put it quite succinctly: “If your baby is going to buy me a drink, O.K. Otherwise, leave him at home.” And I have to say I tended to agree with Bernadette then.
Now that I’m a mom, I’m not sure how I feel anymore. On the one hand, why not take your baby with you to meet friends? If you go to a restaurant and sit at a table while having a cocktail with friends, then is it really any different if you sit at the bar instead of a table and have your drink? Then again, it’s a bar. Fights have been known to break out. Drunks have been known to fall off bar stools, not that I have any personal experience of that happening, but thank goodness I was wearing underwear that night is all I’m going to say on that subject. Should babies really be exposed to this sort of stuff?
I’m talking about afternoons here, by the way. I haven’t heard of anyone taking a baby out at night to a bar or club. Now granted, the last time I was in a club, people were doing The Vogue, and not in an ironic or fun-retro kind of way, either, so I really have no idea what goes on in clubs anymore.
I can’t imagine that the mayor called a strategy session and said, “How can we make bars more baby friendly?” and yet, that’s what he did. I think it’s hilarious, to be honest. Mayor Mike has also been trying to ban the sale of large sugary drinks. I do agree with him on one thing: sugar is almost as dangerous to one’s health as tobacco. But banning large sodas? Never going to work. At least not in the way he intends. Maybe this will just lead to babies drinking beer in bars when they are out with their parents instead of soda?
So far, I have not taken the little guy* out to a bar. In fact, I haven’t been out with friends at a bar since he came along, a situation that I intend to remedy soon. I have met friends for lunch and brunch at cafes and restaurants, sat at a table, and even had a glass of wine I think, with him along in his stroller.
I’m still not sure how I feel about putting him in his stroller and heading out the a bar. Thoughts? Comments?
*By “little guy” I mean my son, not the mayor.
Next time: A Quiz About Working Moms
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About the Author: Dr. Eric Bakker, ND, is a naturopathic physician from New Zealand. He’s spent the past 20 years carefully studying Candida causes and cures and aims to help those who are suffering find answers.
Natural methods are often successfully used to help eliminate candida overgrowth, a fungal infection that manifests itself in many ways. Although candida, aka candidiasis, is not frequently diagnosed by most traditional doctors, some western medicines, both prescription and over the counter (OTC), do offer relief from the condition. By combining naturopathic and conventional treatments, you may be doubly successful at curing fungal infections.
Various Types of Candida
Candida, the overgrowth of a specific microorganism that lives in human bodies, is like a chameleon and takes on many different identities. Here are some common infections caused by candidiasis:
- Vaginal (Candida Vaginitis) or penile(Candida Balanitus) yeast infections
- Oral thrush
- Diaper rash
- Athlete’s foot
- Nail fungus, causing thick, brittle toenails and fingernails that may protrude from the nail beds
- Cutaneous Candidiasis (Skin rashes, particularly in moist areas such as skin folds or under large breasts)
- Systemic candida – This is a serious condition where the candida invades the blood stream and can have damaging effects on every system in the body. Systemic candida is often found amongst people with compromised immune systems such as HIV patients or those undergoing chemotherapy. It can damage organs like the liver, eyes, heart, kidneys, and others.
Some forms of candida are external, others are internal or emotional, instigating such difficulties as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), migraine headaches, chronic fatigue, arthritis, allergies, asthma, PMS, memory loss, depression, mood swings, and many others.
Because it takes so many forms, candida can be tricky to treat. Some types react well to conventional medical treatments, others may respond best to homeopathic treatment, and a combination of the two treatments may be most successful for others.
Conventional Candida Treatments
Traditional doctors tend to treat symptoms rather than candida itself. For problems like yeast infections or athlete’s foot, they will normally prescribe an antifungal medication in either a pill or topical cream form or possibly a suppository for vaginal yeast infections. They may also recommend over the counter medications.
Some of the common drugs used include:
- Butoconazole (available OTC as Femstat, Gynazole-1)
- Clotrimazole (aka Gyne-Lotrimin, Mycelex)
- Miconazole (popular OTC cream Monistat
- Terconazole (Terazol)
- Tioconazole (Vagistat-1)
- Fluconazole (Diflucan), the newest antifungal on the market, also treats vaginal candidiasis.
Although these medications can be quite effective in eliminating symptoms, unfortunately, if the candida is not controlled long term, the likelihood of reoccurrence is strong. One of the most exasperating parts about candida is that just when you think you’ve got it cured, you get another infection.
The Two-Prong Approach to Treating Candida
Many people are discovering that a combination of western medicine and natural treatments is the best way to keep candida from reestablishing itself in your body. Western medicine can help cure the initial symptoms while naturopathic treatments keep the candida from returning. For instance, you may take the prescribed antifungal medications but also choose to follow a low sugar, yeast free diet. This combination of treatment methods often works to reduce the initial overgrowth and regulates the delicate balance of intestinal flora for long term relief.
Natural Candida Remedies
It is often our fast-paced, fast food 21st century way of life that encourages candidiasis in the first place. That is why natural candida remedies involve making lifestyle changes, including what you eat. In fact, following the proper diet is vital to recovery from candida.
The goal of the candida diet is to starve the candida albicans. To do that, you must refrain from eating the foods they feed on. Those include foods that contain sugars, glutens, and yeasts. That means the consumption of most fruits, breads, chocolate, aged cheeses, processed meats and foods, alcohol, fermented beverages, black tea, mushrooms, and more is severely restricted. Starchy vegetables such as peas, corn, and others should also be avoided.
This may sound like a difficult régime to follow, but after a few weeks you can begin to add a few of your favorite foods back into your diet. If you remain free of candida symptoms, you can indulge yourself occasionally.
Other Natural Candida Treatments
There are other steps you can take to help you banish candida from your life. Numerous herbs and supplements can be used to treat and prevent candida. Oil of oregano is a popular remedy, as are garlic, thyme, ginger, rosemary, and clove. You also need to take a multivitamin tablet daily to support your immune system.
Unrefined coconut oil is a great choice for treating both internal and external candida. This delicious, fragrant oil is rich with three types of saturated fatty acids that team up and destroy the candida cells. You may consume three tablespoons of the oil daily. You may also apply coconut oil directly to the skin, using it to treat athlete’s foot and other cutaneous candida conditions such as psoriasis. Pure coconut oil is also a great moisturizer and protects aging skin.
Although you may prefer holistic treatment methods, don’t rule out conventional treatments completely. By combining both approaches, you can be confident that you are doing everything possible to control candida and eliminate the chronic problem from your life.
Next time: Betcha never thought this would happen, Mayor Bloomberg!
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I’m a big believer in voting with my wallet. If someone bankrolls an odious cause or candidate and sells consumer products, my husband and I will go a long way out of our way not to buy those products. For reasons I won’t go into on this blog (but you can follow this link to see why), we try not to buy any products manufactured by companies owned by the Koch brothers.
Here’s a partial list:
- Angel Soft®
- Mardi Gras®
- MD Bathroom Tissue
- Quilted Northern®
- Soft ‘n Gentle®
- Vanity Fair®
No problem for us, here. We usually try to use more eco-friendly (partially recycled) paper products and avoid single-use products like paper napkins and paper plates. I was feeling pretty happy with myself (sanctimonious, much?) until I came upon this horrifying fact: The Koch Brothers manufacture SPANDEX!
S P A N – effing – D E X!
Like in my YOGA PANTS!
Yoga pants…otherwise known as the bottoms in the official “Mommy Uniform.” The same uniform that I donned with such pride about 2 years ago now. I didn’t even know spandex was manufactured! I thought it was some gift of nature.
So in the style of dearest Sylvia (without the whole oven thing of course), I offer this lament:
You do not do, you do not do
Any more, spandex– Booooo!
In which I have lived like a fool
For two years, fat and white,
but at least managing to breathe or Achoo….
Spandex, spandex, you bastards, I’m through!
But to be honest, I’m not sure I can give up spandex. Not just yoga pants, but anything and everything stretchy? Spanx, pantyhose and tights, bathing suits, and bras. I think the only non-spandex bottoms look like this:
What’s a middle-aged mom to do? Thoughts, anyone?
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